Ashes within the earth

This is just something I was thinking about for some unknown reason to me. think when I am no longer among the living I would rather be cremated Not only because its cost efficient, I feel if you wanted to remember me you should have done it while I was alive. If you wanted to have a place to visit me and tell me you love me, you should have while I was in your life 

It seems the only time people tend to remember you most is when you aren't there anymore. Why cant we just let people know how we feel now? Why is it so hard to just be free?

When you Die, tears shed.... Memories are all fresh and new.. But tears fade and so do memories....Life goes on....People become encumbered in their lives. So where does that leave us? Distant memories.....Ashes within the earth..